Between social media scrolls, deadlines at work, and ever-rising expectations, a lot of individuals are gradually and quietly creeping into depression. This insidious mental illness isn’t always apparent. It doesn’t always present itself as tears, audible screams for help, or observable meltdowns. Rather, it tends to appear unobtrusively-silent lack of motivation, persistent exhaustion, or emotional withdrawal. At Vicimantra, we are convinced that in order to facilitate mental wellbeing, first, we need to learn how to absorb what the other is experiencing-how to look beyond the surface and perceive the unseen struggles around us.
This blog delves into how depression builds up over time, why many are afflicted, how to identify the signs, and what we can do as individuals and as a collective to really help mental health.
What Is It to “Absorb” Emotional Challenges?
To “absorb” is to be emotionally present. It’s the capacity to take in-not shut down-the emotions, the behaviours, and the experiences of those around us. When someone is quietly suffering, we don’t always have to give advice. Sometimes we just have to see, hear, and acknowledge their emotions.
Far too frequently, individuals conceal depression behind normal smiles, coerced work efficiency, or wit. Absorbing involves becoming attuned to the subtleties that don’t shout for assistance but whisper for it.
The Growing Burden of Depression
Depression is among the major causes of disability globally, with more than 280 million people affected, as stated by the World Health Organization (WHO). Mental health issues are rapidly growing in India, particularly among young adults. A report by the Indian Council of Medical Research (ICMR) showed that approximately 1 out of 7 Indians has experienced a mental disorder, and the most common are depression and anxiety.
This increase isn’t an accident. It’s a result of the pressure-cooker lifestyle that many are living these days-where competition is perpetual, and openness is frequently confused with weakness.
Why People Are Falling into Depression, Day by Day?
Though the origins of depression are complicated and multidimensional, some contemporary stressors are playing a large role in its steady increase:
1. Social Isolation in an Hyperconnected World
Even though they are online 24/7, there is no real emotional connection. They have more followers but less actual friends.
2. Burnout and Chronic Stress
The demands of work, school, and financial instability all contribute to long-term stress. This chronic stress depletes emotional strength.
3. Emotional Neglect and Trauma
Early trauma—whether emotional, physical, or psychological—continues to manifest in adulthood. Unresolved, it adds to depressive tendencies.
4. Stigma Surrounding Mental Health
Most people still think depression is a sign of weakness. This discourages open discussion and postpones help-seeking behavior.
5. Self-Doubt and Comparison Culture
Social media tends to display perfected images, which can make individuals feel inadequate or behind in life.
We at Vicimantra subscribe to treating not only symptoms but the underlying emotional, psychological, and social causes of mental health conditions.
How Depression Shows Up: Recognising the Signs
Depression is not always evident as intense sadness. It often appears that people who have depression are “fine.” These are some subtle but crucial signs:
Persistent low mood or irritability
Loss of interest in hobbies, work, or social relationships
Changes in sleep or appetite (increased or decreased)
Inability to concentrate or make decisions
Guilt, hopelessness, or worthlessness
Loss of energy, persistent fatigue
Avoidance of social interaction or withdrawal from friends/family
Suicidal thoughts or self-injurious behavior (in severe cases)
Identifying these patterns early on enables timely intervention-something that can literally change a life.
Becoming Absorbed in Daily Life: How to Be Emotionally Present
Being someone who can become absorbed in another’s pain doesn’t mean becoming a therapist. It just means being present, patient, and supportive. Here are some ways you can become practiced at emotional absorption in everyday life:
1. Stop and Watch
Note changes in behaviour-has someone been quieter than normal? Are they absent from work or avoiding discussion?
2. Ask with Compassion
Rather than a perfunctory “How are you?”, use: “I’ve noticed you’ve been quiet recently-is there something wrong?” Demonstrate you are genuinely concerned.
3. Listen Without Criticism
Avoid jumping in with advice or solutions. In some cases, being heard is the most potent form of healing.
4. Back Off a Bit, But Stay Near
Let them know you’re available. Send gentle reminders that they are not alone.
5. Encourage Professional Help
Sometimes love and support aren’t enough. Gently encourage therapy or counselling, such as services offered at Vicimantra.
The Psychological Roots of Depression
Depression isn’t just a low mood; it’s a clinical mental health condition influenced by various biological, psychological, and environmental factors.
Neurotransmitter Balance: Chemicals such as serotonin and dopamine are extremely important for mood regulation. Their imbalance can lead to depressive episodes.
Negative Thought Patterns: Perpetual negative thoughts, self-criticism, and catastrophizing have a way of keeping individuals stuck in the cycle of despair.
Unresolved Emotional Trauma: Childhood or relationship experiences tend to resurface in adulthood if they aren’t worked through in a healthy manner.
Genetics and Family History: Individuals with a family history of depression are at higher risk to develop it themselves.
Getting to know the psychology of depression eliminates the stigma and promotes empathy towards individuals experiencing it.
How Vicimantra Helps Mental Health
We at Vicimantra specialize in evidence-based psychological services that are individualized. Our experienced psychologists, counsellors, and mental health practitioners provide:
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)
Talk Therapy & Counselling
Adolescent and Child Counselling
Family and Relationship Therapy
We offer in-person and online counseling, providing safe, confidential, and empathetic care for all.
Visit: https://vicimantra.com/psychology/
Book an appointment with one of India’s leading mental health experts
Why Early Intervention Matters
Just as physical diseases, the sooner you treat mental illnesses, the better the results. Early intervention:
Prevents the condition from deteriorating
Aids in the preservation of career and relationships
Decreases the risk of drug abuse or self-injury
Develops lasting emotional resilience
Too many people hurt for longer than they must because they wait too long to get the help they need. Let’s break that pattern.
Building a Kinder, More Caring Society
Mental health is not a private matter-it’s a shared concern. By being able to absorb and respond to emotional pain, we can make a real difference to the wellbeing of our family, workplaces, and communities.
You Can:
Speak out for mental health awareness
Make therapy and counselling okay
Get informed and inform others
Support mental health policies in schools and workplaces
Be a safe space for those who are struggling
At Vicimantra, we envision a world where no one has to suffer in silence—and every person feels seen, heard, and supported.
Final Words: Let’s Learn to Absorb
Each day, someone in your midst is fighting thoughts they don’t understand. They are withdrawing little by little into the shadows of depression, praying someone will see before it’s too late.
